Our hangups about gender get in the way of understanding the Almighty.
Years ago I observed a rather heated discussion between two people about which pronoun to use for the Holy Spirit.
See, when people don’t
But in the Old Testament, the Hebrew for spirit,
I once heard a pastor claim the Old Testament noun might be feminine, and the New Testament noun might be neuter, but the writers of the NT treated néfma, whenever it meant the Holy Spirit, as if it’s a masculine noun. I thought that was interesting. Repeated the statement myself a few times. Then I took Greek in college and discovered it’s not so. (Would’ve been nice too: There are certain bits of Paul’s letters where it’s hard to tell whether he means our spirit or the Spirit, and if he always used masculine markers for the Holy Spirit, it’d make interpretation so much easier. But he didn’t.) Don’t know where this pastor got his idea, but it’s utterly bogus.
Because néfma is neuter, I gradually got in the habit of using neuter pronouns when I refer to spirits. After all,
But because the Spirit’s name in Hebrew,
Bear in mind it’s only by custom we refer to the Spirit as “he.” God is spirit,
But customs aren’t bible, and the Spirit of God is “she” throughout the Old Testament. So these Christians feel entirely justified in calling the Spirit “she.”
And this practice totally freaks out certain other Christians.
Deliberately provocative, I know.
For non-sexists, they’re weirded out because they simply never thought of God as “she.” It’s not common Christian practice.
Y’know who it is common among?
So when a person starts calling God “she,” many a Christian is gonna suspect they might be speaking to
Non-sexists are also gonna consider the bibles we grew up with. Not a one of the reputable bible translations refer to God the Holy Spirit as “she.” Not even
And y’know, God had plenty of opportunities to tell us in the scriptures how he created male and female,
Now for the sexists.
You’ll recognize them by the way they insist certain human behaviors, traits, tendencies, and interests are “masculine” and “feminine.” Men do this, women do that; men should never do as women do; women should never do as men do; neither should “blur” the gender roles, which they insist were established by God. Ask ’em where in the bible they got their definitions, and they won’t be able to point to a thing without first
To sexists, their identity is fused together with their gender. Male isn’t just something they are; it’s their
To sexists, masculine traits are good, and proper for men; and feminine traits are bad and should be avoided… but they’re okay for women. The way they talk of “feminine” traits is far too much like when you speak of old food you find in the refrigerator: “This lunchmeat smells wrong… No, don‘t eat it. But yeah, you can go ahead and give it to the dog. It’s fit for animals.”)
The “masculine” traits are ones they value. But it’s not enough to merely have them; they have to justify them, in case anyone objects to them in any way. They wanna claim they’re normal, and
But sexists are comfortable with male privilege, with their false sense of male superiority, with their refusal
Yet according to the scriptures, they’re in the wrong. Other than biological issues such as sexuality, and other than the husband and wife’s respective roles within marriage, the scriptures have two, and only two, gender boundaries.
- No cross-dressing.
Dt 22.5 (Arguably this includeswhether women oughta cover up. ) - Women can’t be priests in the Hebrew religion. (But in the Christian religion,
they already are. )
Under Christ, gender is otherwise irrelevant.
Any preachers who insist some roles are for men and others for women, who manipulate bible into supporting the idea, are preaching their own prejudices instead of God’s word. Frequently it’s because they themselves are trying to evade responsibilities they don’t want. Many men preach only women should primarily take care of kids, mainly because they don’t care to shoulder such a huge responsibility. Or they say men should be the primary wage-earners, because they love the supposed power which comes from acquiring money—and the freedom they get by being able to evade household responsibilities in favor of work or “work-related” duties.
Thus far I’ve spoken about male sexists, but there are plenty of women sexists too. Fr’instance lots of women claim only men should ask women out on dates (contrary to
The fact these gender roles aren’t the product of loving and serving and submitting to one another, but instead come from prejudice, from evading responsibility, and from seizing authority, should tip us off they’re the result of sin. They’re not about accepting God-assigned roles; that idea comes from Daoism, not Christianity.
So that’s what happened with that internet discussion at the top of this article. One person referred to the Spirit as “she,” and the other flew into a rage and started ranting about gender politics. Derailed the whole discussion.
God transcends gender.
I pitched the question, “Why are we suddenly bringing this up?” above, but didn’t answer it. Now I will.
Many people like the idea of God as a gender-neutral Heavenly Parent because they’ve had really bad experiences with men or fathers. I know exactly where they’re coming from: My dad, my biological father, is not a good parent. He had lousy parents himself, and never thought to do better than they had; he only cares that his kids not embarrass him, and used to beat me up when he imagined I had. If my relationship with the L
But others have never been able to separate the two. Their fathers were awful, so they expect God the Father is likewise awful. They had to earn their earthly fathers’ love; they expect God
A gender-neutral God sounds so much better to them than a God who’s so very male. Though some of ’em love the idea of God the Mother, and focus intently on all of God’s characteristics which sound “feminine” to them—
I get why people want a gender-free or female God: They’re trying to relate to God, and have a hard time doing it ’cause his “masculinity” gets in the way. And y’know, the fact they’re trying to deal with God is better than outright rejection. I’ve met quite a few people who gave up on God altogether, simply because they can’t get past their past. That’s why they quit religion, or got into a religion with goddesses. At least the Christians who call God “she” still recognize Jesus as “her” son, and follow him—
And those who interact with such Christians need to recognize they’re in a sensitive place right now. And not
Taking our culture’s “gender confusion” and applying it to God—or accusing other Christians of inappropriately applying it to God—ultimately has nothing to do with God. It has to do with some very unhealthy attitudes humans have about gender. We’ve projected our unhealthiness onto God. That’s why some of us avoid referring to God as “he”—and others insist everyone must call God “he” or we’re heretic. If we truly understand masculinity and femininity as God does, this’d be a non-issue. We wouldn’t care what people call God; just that they call upon him. The fact we still debate it at all, proves we all have prejudices to get over.
Remember, in order for us to relate to him better, God became what he originally wasn’t: He became human. And if, in order to relate to him better, some people gotta call God “she” from time to time, I can’t imagine God saying, “No; I’m not going that far.” He will—while always staying true to himself—reach down to our level to bring us up to his. It’s not false to refer to the Holy Spirit as “she.” It’s only false if you insist the Spirit therefore can’t be a “he.” Our pronouns have no business limiting an unlimited God.

