02 June 2026

Interacting with God’s love.

1 John 4.11-16.

If we’re gonna call ourselves Christians or Christ-followers, naturally we need to do as Jesus teaches, and follow his example. And since Jesus loves us with God’s love, naturally we need to practice God’s love—his gracious, indiscriminate, compassionate love. Especially towards one another, since Jesus told us to love one another.

In today’s passage John brings up another way we know God’s in us: We practice God’s love. His love can be seen in the world because Christians are actually, visibly loving people. God may be invisible, but when his love is visible, he’s technically visible. It’s our job—really our duty—to make him visible.

1 John 4.11-16 KWL
11Beloved, if this is how much God loves us,
we’re obligated to love one another.
12Nobody had ever seen God;
when we love one another,
God remains in us
and his love is brought to completion by us.
13This is how we know we remain in God
and he in us:
By God’s Spirit
whom he gave us.
14We saw, and still witness
that the Father sent the Son
as savior of the world.
15Whoever confesses Jesus is God’s son,
God remains in them¹ and they¹ in God.
16We knew and believed the love
which God has in us.
God is love,
and one who remains in love
remains in God,
and God remains in them.¹

True, John is practicing some circular reasoning in this passage. In verse 13 he states, “This is how we know we remain in him and he and us: By his Spirit whom he gave us.” How do we know God’s in us? Because he’s in us. Yeah, I can’t help that John’s not really following the dictates of Aristotelian logic like westerners would prefer. But John’s not giving us a logic lesson; he’s explaining what authentic, lived-out Christianity looks like. The only way we can know God’s in us is when he’s in us; the only way we can know God’s love remains in us is when we remain in God’s love. We gotta do this stuff. Once we do, we recognize God’s in it.

Experience is more important than knowledge.

There are an obnoxious number of Christians who are completely dismissive of the Christian experience. They feel Christianity is not based on experience; not at all. It’s based on belief. It’s based on orthodoxy. We’re Christian because we believe all the right things. We’re saved because we believe all the right things. And they’re mighty quick to say Christian experiences are not one of those “right things.”

These folks feel a relationship with God can’t be based on our God-experiences. It can only be based on the scriptures. And all these scriptures have to be neatly arranged and systematized; gotta be logical and orderly. True, that’s not the way in which the scriptures were inspired and came to us… and you’ll also notice, in 1 John and many other places, the scriptures extol the importance of God-experiences. This very letter starts with that idea:

1 John 1.1-4 KJV
1That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, of the Word of life; 2(for the life was manifested, and we have seen it, and bear witness, and shew unto you that eternal life, which was with the Father, and was manifested unto us;) 3that which we have seen and heard declare we unto you, that ye also may have fellowship with us: and truly our fellowship is with the Father, and with his Son Jesus Christ. 4And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full.

God never meant for Christianity to only be a neatly organized belief system. It doesn’t hurt to have one; it comes in mighty handy at times. But God didn’t introduce himself to us in a neat and orderly way. He started with an elderly nomad named Avram and promised him countless descendants. He took those descendants, now slaves, and turned them into his chosen people. He picked untrained temple servants to be prophets, and untrained shepherd boys to be kings. He took the infinite אֵ֥ל חַ֖י/El Khay, the Living God, and crammed him into a body; then let that body be ripped apart and killed. He founded a church on the back of a guy who couldn’t stand up for his Lord when things got scary.

And in all this stuff, y’notice God doesn’t try to save people through words, but through the lived, shared experiences he had with ’em. We know God because we had those experiences—because he lives in us. Not because we memorized a bunch of memory verses, then affirmed our churches’ various creeds and faith statements. That’s how you wind up with a Christian with a head full of knowledge, and a heart full of crap.

The head full of knowledge is nothing, and makes no sense, without a heart filled with God. And if John sometimes makes no logical sense in pointing out the necessity of a heart filled with God… well, that’s okay. He has his priorities straight.

Get these experiences.

In this chapter John lists two evidences of the Christian’s relationship with God:

  1. We confess Jesus as God’s son.
  2. We demonstrate God’s love.

And we need to see ’em both. Orthodoxy without love is, bluntly, what the devils have. Jm 2.19 Love without orthodoxy is what the pagans have—and without Jesus, any relationship we attempt to have with God is gonna have severe defects. (And deficient love.)

We gotta have Jesus in it. God chose to reveal himself through the person of Jesus. There’s no bypassing him to get to the Father. Jn 14.6 Plenty of people try. They want a relationship with God (or wanna be known for having a relationship with God, or want God to grant them all their wishes) and want it on their terms, and don’t care to conform to Jesus’s interpretation. But claiming a relationship with God, yet rejecting Jesus, pretty much indicates it’s not a valid relationship with God. It’s another religion—one which might have some really good people in it, but none of those folks know the Father.

Sometimes their excuse is they don’t wanna deal with ill-behaved Christians. I get that; I don’t wanna deal with them either! But earnest Christians have learned how to bypass those people, and get to the gospels and Jesus despite them. And earnest pagans could do likewise… but they don’t wanna, and misbehaving Christians are their lame excuse.

True, we might misunderstand Jesus. Plenty of Christians do. Some of those misunderstandings can cross the line into heresy. John brought up a few of those heresies in this letter, but on the most basic level he expects us to recognize Jesus is God’s son, 1Jn 4.15 who really appeared in the flesh, 1Jn 4.2 who really is sent by God. 1Jn 4.14 If we believe that at least, we aren’t so far wrong that we’re not able to be set right. Don’t give up on heretics who still believe in Jesus! Keep pulling ’em towards the light.

And there’s a good segue to talk about the other evidence: Love. This is the love which is obviously displayed in a Christian’s life. Love is the Spirit’s fruit, Ga 5.22 the evidence of the Spirit whom God placed in us, 1Jn 4.13 because love—and the joy, peace, patience, etc. which Paul also listed as fruit—is a product of the Spirit’s empowering presence in our lives which helps us mature as Christians.

Some heretics do a better job of showing this love than orthodox Christians. They may not understand Jesus aright, but they do understand God’s love. They’re fantastic to their neighbors. They’re wonderful to one another. They’re awfully patient with we screeching, angry, condemning heretic-bashers. We should see this degree of civility and longsuffering far more often among the people who have their theology straight.

But John didn’t write, “God lives in you if you believe the Apostles Creed.” He wrote, “One who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in them.”

We don’t need to get our theology straight as much as we need to get our love straight. When Jesus returns, he isn’t judging the lambs and kids based on proper theology. He judges them on their love. Mt 25.34-40 It’s most definitely important we recognize Jesus as the Son, but we’re meant to go from there to love—not so much complex systematic theology.