Adultery, concubines, and marriage, in the Old Testament.

Years ago one of my eighth-grade students asked me what a concubine was. ’Cause he wasn’t familiar with the word, and it was in his bible. It’s in everybody’s bibles: פִּילֶ֣גֶשׁ/pylegéš, “concubine,” which Strong’s dictionary defines as “concubine; paramour.” I just went with the 21st-century term for paramour: “It’s a girlfriend,” I told him.

Later that day his mother called me to complain. She heard the story, spoke with her pastor, and he assured her a concubine is a wife. Not a girlfriend. What sort of morality was I attempting to teach her son?

Um… it wasn’t a morality lesson. It’s a definition. The morality lesson comes from whether you think the bible’s references to concubines are

PRESCRIPTIVE: The patriarchs did it, so we can do it! Probably should do it. Or—

DESCRIPTIVE: Whether the patriarchs did it or not, Jesus calls us to be better than they.

(I’ll save you the guessing game: It’s nearly always the second one.)

The patriarchs had concubines. These were, as my Oxford dictionary defines ’em, “a regular female companion with whom a person has a romantic or sexual relationship.” Our English word comes from the Latin con cubaré/“to lie down with.” A patriarch would lie down with one of the women in his household, making her his concubine. Not necessarily have sex with her, as was the case with King David and his concubine Abishag. 1Ki 1.1-4 (And if you wanna argue Abishag wasn’t a concubine, then it doesn’t make sense why Solomon freaked out when his brother Adonijah asked to marry her. 1Ki 2.13-25 See in those days, claiming your father’s harem meant you claimed your father’s kingdom. 2Sa 16.20-22 So yeah—she’s a concubine.)

Why do some Christians insist a concubine isn’t a girlfriend, but a wife? Simple: It’s a culture clash. One in which they presume these ancient Hebrews have the very same mindset they do. And they totally don’t.

When we read the Old Testament, we’re looking into an entirely different culture with an entirely different worldview about sex and marriage. We don’t always realize this. We figure since they followed God, and we follow God, we share worldviews. In our culture, a married man with a girlfriend on the side is an adulterer. So the God-fearing patriarchs can’t have been adulterers. Polygamists, okay; but not adulterers. And to clear ’em of the charge of adultery, “concubine” therefore can’t mean girlfriend. It’s gotta mean wife.