12 December 2024

Curses: “You take that back!”

CURSE kərs noun. A solemn utterance, meant to invoke supernatural evil, punishment, or harm.
2. verb. Invoke supernatural evil, punishment, or harm.
3. noun. Cause of evil or suffering.
[Curser 'kərs.ər noun.]

Years ago, when I taught at a Christian school, I had a mom ask for a meeting to object to something I wrote on her son’s report card. The boy wanted to grow up to have a highly technical job… but he didn’t do his homework. In any of his classes. I’d told him more than once, “If you don’t do your homework, you’re not gonna get the future you want.” And that’s what I wrote on his report card… and his mom was offended. She claimed I’d “word-cursed” him.

What on earth is a “word curse”? It’s a curse. In some churches they claim every negative thing we say, whether we intend them to be acutal binding curses or not, are actual binding curses. And true, sometimes the things we say will get into someone’s head and affect them for years. I’ve met people who were seriously hindered by the awful things their parents, teachers, pastors, bosses, or coaches told them. They believed that junk, and it still messes with them. It surely worked like a curse! So that’s what these Christians claim they are. It’s an unpleasant word… which is functionally a curse.

Okay, those who teach about “word curses” kinda have a valid point. But by their definition of “word curses,” I actually didn’t curse the boy. My comment is an if-then statement. If you don’t do X, then Y. It’s conditional. And a whole bunch of God’s messages are conditional: If you obey him, then you get blessed. If you don’t, then you don’t. That’s not a curse; that’s a warning. Fulfill the conditions!

Ultimately she agreed with me… but I can’t fault her at all for being sensitive about curses. I certainly didn’t wanna hinder my student by making him believe he wasn’t capable. Quite the contrary!

But you’ll find certain Christians are extremely sensitive about “word curses.” And of course regular curses. And “cursing,” by which we mean profanity, which is a whole other discussion.

Among certain dark Christians, every negative statement—more accurately, anything they can interpret as a negative statement, and they pessimistically interpret a whole lot of things as negative statements!—counts as a curse. Fr’instance I could say, “Hmm, looks like rain,” and to their minds I just cursed the sky. Seriously. “You take that back! Don’t you call rain down on us!” As if my casual observation has the power to call down rain—and y’know, if it could, I’d make a fortune.

See, according to these fearful folks, all our words—including idle ones—spoken into the atmosphere, have the power to create and destroy. They figure we humans are made in God’s image, Ge 1.27 and since he has the power to call things into existence with a word, they claim we have the very same power. Way lesser; I can’t state like God can, “Let the waters separate from the dry ground,” and instantly my swimming pool has been drained. But somehow, to some degree, I have the semi-divine power to make stuff out of nothing. My uneducated weather forecast can actually make weather.

Which is rubbish; it’s based on pagan “mind science,” the 19th-century belief that reality is in fact a mental illusion, and we have the power to affect and change the illusion if we believe hard enough. It’s what the Christian Science church teaches. It’s not consistent with the scriptures; God created a real, external, objective universe. I could believe really hard that my words (without any Holy Spirit to empower ’em, of course) can stop tornadoes… but I’d be a moron to bet on it.

Don’t get me wrong. The spoken word isn’t a powerless thing. Words can build up; words can tear down. I can make someone’s day by giving ’em a compliment. I can ruin their life by criticizing ’em at the wrong time. That’s what Solomon meant when he wrote death and life are in the tongue. Pr 18.21 For this reason, Christians need to watch what we say. We never know the direction we’re influencing people.

But the idea my words have magical power that might trigger a reaction in nature around us, and create all sorts of unintended horrors: Not biblical. Ridiculous.

And illogical too. You’ll notice all the Christians who fear accidentally destroying stuff through their “word curses,” somehow never worry about accidentally blessing stuff. “Gee, it looks like the weather today will be really nice!” never seems to force the clouds to dissipate. Nope. Blessings have always gotta be intentional, but curses can be accidental.

God’s children are curse-proof.

Whenever I encounter a worry-ridden dark Christian who’s terrified they’ve just been “word-cursed” by someone who wished them evil, I gotta remind them (or inform them for the very first time): We Christians are curse-proof.

Seriously. Curse-proof.

Satan can’t curse us. Other people can’t curse us. Oh, they’ll try. It’ll range from people whom you’ve annoyed, intentionally or not, who wish all sorts of hateful vibes upon you; to Christians who pray God might smite some sense into you; to capital-p Pagans who seriously dabble in magic, trying to hex you. This isn’t just the “[BLEEP] you, pal!” of someone who waves the wrong finger at you while driving. These are people who intentionally, actively want harm and destruction and hell to happen to you.

And none of it’s gonna work. At all. Not just ’cause these people’s vibes, prayers, or spells have no power. Even if they did have power, it’d bounce off you like a rigged carnival game. You have the Holy Spirit in you. You think he’s gonna let that stuff touch you? The One in you is infinitely greater than anything outside you. 1Jn 4.4

What God has blessed, nothing and no one can successfully curse. Nu 22.12 In fact, cursing what God has blessed frequently tends to have a boomerang effect: The curser gets cursed. Ge 12.3, 27.29 God can turn their curses into blessings, Dt 23.5, Ne 13.2 and turn their evil intentions into mighty acts of rescue and salvation. He’s not gonna let any power they imagine they have, touch his kids. Don’t be afraid of those who curse you. Trust God.

Dark Christians, to be blunt, don’t trust God. Their whole relationship with him is purely contractual: They said the sinner’s prayer, so they figure he owes them heaven. But they don’t really expect him to come through for them till then, and they often don’t follow him much in the meanwhile. They don’t know God well enough to know he defends us from curses—and all the other things which frighten ’em. They live in fear, not faith.

“But what about the word curses said over me?” Oh, all the lies spoken over you which you’ve chosen to believe, and permitted to influence your life? Stop believing them. Stop granting them power over you. Reject them. When they pop into your head, rebuke them. No, I’m not at all saying it’s easy to do this. It takes self-discipline, and sometimes professional therapy. But God doesn’t have to break these curses; you do. God doesn’t empower them; you do. God’s said all sorts of positive, powerful, blessing-filled stuff about his kids, and you need to start believing him instead of other people’s rubbish. God can help you break these word-curses off you, but whether you abide under these hurtful things or not, entirely depends on your mind.

God’s children aren’t to curse people. (This includes you!)

During Jesus’s earthly ministry, he never cursed a single human being. Not one. Ever.

People who believe in “word curses” might be thrown into an utter panic when anyone says something like Jesus’s, “Sin no more, lest a worse thing come unto thee.” Jn 5.14 KJV But that’s not a curse! Like my statement to my student, that’s an if-then statement. The man Jesus was speaking to, whom he just cured of some illness which incapacitated him, had four possibilities in his future, and Jesus was trying to steer him away from option #1:

  1. Sin, and something worse than paralysis happens to him.
  2. Sin—and out of pure dumb luck, worse doesn’t happen. But the odds of this aren’t good; hence Jesus’s warning.
  3. Sin not, and something worse doesn’t happen to him.
  4. Sin not, and accidents happen anyway—but these accidents absolutely aren’t any consequence of sin.

But whatever ultimately happened to this guy, Jesus didn’t mean him harm! Only blessing. And if the guy heeded Jesus’s warning, worse shouldn’t happen.

Nope; Jesus cursed nobody. But he did curse a tree once. “No man eat fruit of thee hereafter for ever,” he declared. Mk 11.14 KJV Within a day, the tree dried up from the roots. Mk 11.20 Pretty harsh thing to do to a tree! But Jesus did it to make a point to his students:

Mark 11.23-24 KJV
23For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. 24Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

It wasn’t to tell his kids, “Go ahead and curse fruit trees whenever they don’t do as you want.” Nor go ahead and curse people when they don’t do as we want. Curse no one. “Bless your cursers,” Jesus elsewhere instructed; Lk 6.28 “Bless your persecutors,” Paul instructed too; “bless and don’t curse them.” Ro 12.14 We have no business cursing any human being, anyone made in God’s image. Jm 3.9-10 Following Jesus’s example, Christians should only be known for blessing people.

Well what if we do curse people? Will they shrivel up like the fig tree? Not necessarily. God doesn’t say yes to requests for him to do evil. Jm 4.3 Two of Jesus’s students wanted to call fire down upon the Samaritans, and Jesus rightly told them off. Lk 9.54-55 Curse people, and God’s not gonna play along. The people we curse might feel awful—remember, words have power—but in no way is God behind this. He’s never gonna damn anybody on our say-so. Those kinds of judgments are for him alone to make. Not us. Especially when we dare curse a fellow Christian, one of his beloved children.

Yep, there are biblical commands which specifically forbid cursing certain individuals.

  • Don’t curse God; Lv 24.15 duh.
  • Don’t curse your parents. Ex 21.17, Lv 20.9
  • Don’t curse a ruler. Ex 22.28 (Man, are some partisan Christians in trouble for this one.)

When we read of Old Testament saints cursing people, often it’s curses upon any generic person who commits a certain sin. Like anyone who makes idols, Dt 27.15 or switches a good sacrifice for a blemished one, Ml 1.14 or rebuild Jericho. Js 6.26 The idea was to discourage misbehavior, not ruin specific individuals. But of course there are examples of people trying to do just that. Not every OT saint was all that saintly.

Now, cursing objects—yeah, God’s okay with that, depending on our motives. The tree Jesus cursed, fr’instance. If you have had it with that vending machine which keeps stealing your money and not giving you soda, you go right ahead and curse that machine if you wanna. Condemn it to utter ruin. Of course, you might feel silly doing so… and probably should. It’s only an inanimate object, after all. And taking a sledgehammer to it might be way more effective than your curses.

Cursing yourself. (Whoops.)

So if God won’t let other people curse us, and God won’t permit us to curse others, are there any curses we oughta worry about?

Yes. Those curses in the scriptures against generic sinners: Let’s not become one of those generic sinners! Don’t commit those sins. No secretly moving your property lines around, Dt 27.17 no giving bad directions to blind people, Dt 27.18 no denying due process to foreigners, orphans, or widows, Dt 27.19 no having sex with your stepmom. Dt 27.20 Commonsense stuff.

Then there are the curses we call down upon ourselves. This practice is a little more common. No, it’s not necessarily where people say, “May my genitals rot off if I ever do [SOMETHING TO REALLY, REALLY AVOID],” as part of our bargains with God. Some of these oaths get mighty stupid! But God is merciful when we make dumb oaths. Just be more conscientious next time.

Even so, God does hold people to our promises. Nu 30.2 And when we idly break these promises, he’s obligated to turn off certain blessings till we make things right. No, this doesn’t mean he actively does horrible things to us until we shape up. It only means he won’t stop all the horrible things which’d ordinarily happen. When ancient Israel sinned, he allowed their enemies to have at them. It was part of the curses they called down upon themselves, triggered by their own disobedience. Dt 28.45

And some of us have called down similar things. When you first became Christian, didn’t you promise to follow Jesus? Heck, just about all of us have—and we’ve made similar promises ever since. Some churches make it a regular part of their worship services, where the pastor gets up and prays, “God, we promise to do everything you ask of us!”—and all the people say Amen. These weren’t accidental or idle oaths. These promises count. We’ve obligated ourselves to God in all sorts of ways. Maybe not intentionally—we never expected ’em to come back and bite us later—but that makes no difference. They apply.

So when we slide away from God, he won’t necessarily sic our enemies on us—even when we said, “May God strike me down if I don’t do as I promised.” But make no mistake: When God turns off blessings, stuff’s gonna happen.

They have a ridiculously easy solution, though: Repent!